January 12, 2004
ON BEING A BETTER FRIEND AND COLLEAGUE
I recently took a Personal Style Indicator test, the results of which I think will aid me in one of my 2004 resolutions (#3. Be a better friend and colleague by being a better person). If youíre not familiar with it, the Personal Style Indicator (PSI) is a scientifically-based tool intended to improve one's self-awareness, self-understanding, and ability to develop positive and rewarding relationships with others. The PSI helps to appraise your behavioral strengths; recognize those areas that could use improvement; and, understand and improve your relationships with others. The results of my PSI are as follows, and if I'm truly interested in being a better friend and colleague, it's important to me that I share this info WITH my friends and colleagues.
TO BE SUCCESSFUL, I NEED: Support to reach my goals; cooperation; detailed information; to be treated respectfully; for others to do quality work themselves; to be made to feel like I belong; appreciation for my efforts; for others to be kind, considerate, and thoughtful; people to trust me with important tasks; and, for others to value me as a person.
I GET "MOST" UPSET WHEN: Others are too slow for my tastes, talk too much, donít give me enough time, donít appreciate my efforts, are not interested in me, compete and win attention over me, seem judgmental over me, get angry or blow up or are mean to me, and when others are manipulative or unfair to me or those I care about.
STRENGTHS OF MY STYLE ARE: Acting rapidly to get results; driven to achieve goals; seek to create a low-stress climate; want to ensure quality; can follow directives and standards; am sensitive to others feelings; able to develop a network of contacts; often willing to help others; able to promote harmony and balance; am reliable and consistent; and, am often easy-going and warm.
DIFFICULTIES OF MY STYLE ARE: Can be lonely or fatigued; can bog down in details and lose time; can be too critical or finicky; can ìoverburnî and over-indulge; can be too accepting; can allow others to take advantage of me; can become bitter if unappreciated; can be low in self-worth; and, can be too dependant on others.
At the end of the day, in this quest to become a better friend and colleague by becoming a better person, I am interested in modifying the behaviors listed above under ìI get most upset whenî and ìDifficulties of my style areî. Many of these behaviors, while not always front-and-center, are not necessarily mitigated solely by my strengths. It's all a part of the journey, I suppose; right?
Posted by Mikal at January 12, 2004 4:58 AM
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As a pragmatist and realist, I think our goal or plan of action should always be to mimize the weaknesses and maximize the strengths. Of course, we cannot eliminate the weaknesses, despite the words of folks like Tony Robbins. Awareness is the prima facia requirement for any type of improvement. You're there now, Mikal and you've been there before. Don't let this analysis make you feel that you need to do something more because you've failed in some way. I think you've always been good at self-perception and self-improvement. Keep up the good work! Go Patriots!
Kudos on confronting your personal work Mikal. I think you would be open to a book called Warriors of the Heart, by Danaan Parry. This book was recommended to me by my Prescott Advisor, Rick Medrick, and I thought it was awesome. To take a byline from the book, "This book is for every woman and man who is ready to accept responsibility for their part in the passionate, positive change process that is about to transform our planet." Check it out my man and let me know how I cna support you on your personal journey!
Wow, Mikal...
It's quite the thing to have one's personality laid out like filets for others to enjoy.
Brave! You sure didn't shy away from downsides to your makeup.
The things you said are particularly interesting because, even with knowing you, there is no outward emblem of all the characteristics you listed.
What we carry inside is such a mystery to others.
Hope 2008 finishes out in top form for you.
Just had to check in again with some math.
I read a sampling of the comments from belicove blog buddies and
79% are very funny
14% are medium droll
4% enlighten without attempting humor
3% are macabre
Others were unclassifiable but I ran into a problem with already having listed 100% of what I saw. Do you know why we came up with that silly 100% is everything rule?
I need about 15% more to play with if I'm going to get things completely tabbed, here.
